2025 Issue #44 🔥

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If you try to do anything worthwhile, you'll likely suffer skeptics and critics.

When you encounter naysayers, you have a few options. You can allow them to stop you. This is generally not advised, especially if they are little more than bullies. Or you can use their doubts as fuel.

This is what I recommend, but with caution.

You see, that fuel burns hot. If you rely too much on it, you can end up consumed with anger and rage. If it becomes all about proving someone else wrong, rather than pursuing something worthwhile that brings you joy, you will be the loser in the end.

When I was younger, I idolized Michael Jordan. Besides his athletic prowess, I also admired his work ethic, determination, and persistence. But I also remember the speech he gave when he was inducted into the NBA Hall of Fame. Despite having accomplished everything a player could possibly achieve and being widely regarded as the greatest of all time, he was still holding on to grudges from decades gone by. Perceived slights from his high school basketball coach, teammates, reporters, and fellow competitors. He was still trying to torch them all to prove his dominance, spitting out petty barbs to people he perceived as having wronged him. He came across as bitter, shallow, and small.

Those slights he used to fuel his competitive drive seemed to have consumed him, leaving him charred.

It's natural to want to right perceived wrongs. But as many wise people have said, "Withholding forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

Our culture today seems more combative than ever. Trash-talking is considered an art form. We are urged to use the haters to fuel our rise, and then, when our success is undeniable, use it to torch them. When we win, it's open season on our opponent. We must reign fiery retorts and comebacks down upon them, shaming them into submission. The more clever the comeback, the more street cred we receive.

But there's a better way, and the Wright Brothers are a great example.

As you might imagine, the race to be the first to fly was heated. The two were fiercely competitive, but they never badmouthed their competitors, choosing instead to compliment their good qualities.

One of their biggest rivals was a man by the name of Samuel Langley. He was the head of the Smithsonian, one of the most respected scientists of the day, and by far the most well-funded individual pursuing the problem of flight. He portrayed a haughty pride over his self-perceived inevitability of success. Ultimately, he experienced a very public, very humiliating failure.

One that opened the door for the Wright Brothers to gloat.

As I read David McCullough's book about them, I found myself rooting for Orville and Wilbur to do some sort of well-deserved verbal victory dance.

They never did.

McCullough writes:

How kind. How gracious. And frankly, how epically badass.

Taking the high road and responding with kindness possesses an underrated level of effectiveness. For the Bible tells us that when you treat your enemies with kindness, "you heap burning coals upon their head."

Don't let the naysayers stop you. You can turn them into motivation, but be careful about using them for fuel.

Fighting fire with fire leaves both of you as a pile of ash.

🤔 I wonder...are there any critics in your life that you've let disturb your peace and char your heart? Reply to share your thoughts with me, or join the conversation in the Escape Adulthood League!

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